I’m In An Interracial/Intercultural Relationship…What No One Talks About

Watching Mother’s Day The Movie

I recently watched Mother’s day the movie and noticed that Kate Hudson’s character Jesse is married to an Indian man but her parents are oblivious to her marriage and also her biracial child existing.  Jesse has been secretly living this way for years and she had a rhythm and routine for when her parents called.  Her actions spoke, “I MUST REMOVE ALL VISUAL TRACES OF MY MULTICULTURAL FAMILY FROM MY PARENTS VIEWPOINT.”

Why did she have to do this in today’s age of alleged color blindness and racial/ethnic acceptance?  Because in many respects it is still socially and culturally unacceptable to date and marry someone of another ethnicity/culture.  And for many of us in interracial/intercultural relationships, there are things that occur/that we do that no one talks about.  Like what?

5 Things No One In An Interracial/Intercultural Relationship Talks About

Here are our Top 5 things no one in an interracial/intercultural relationship talks about but many of us have experienced:

1.) The need to hide your relationship and/or marriage (i.e. Mother’s Day the movie).  Not because your relationship isn’t beautiful, or as important, or to be celebrated akin to those that aren’t in an interracial/intercultural relationship instead racist notions and stereotypes still exist.

2.) The need to physically hide yourself and/or act like you don’t know your significant other.  Finding yourself hide in the closet or the trunk of a car when your significant other’s parents or family are unexpectantly in town.  I know you are thinking this can’t be real, oh, if only it were not.

3.) The need to hide your child/children that are the result of an interracial/intercultural relationship.  I know many are going to think that this is only a 1950s and 1960s phenomenon but this does still exist and is happening in some interracial/intercultural relationships (again i.e. Mother’s Day the movie).

4.) Being disowned for being in your relationship.  Due to familial/cultural dissatisfaction or an unsatisfactory reaction to your relationship you find yourself disowned for love.  This actually happened to us (see disowned) and tips for overcoming being disowned.

5.) Losing friends for being in an interracial /intercultural relationship.  You find yourself coming to a social awareness that your interracial/intercultural relationship is not acceptable and no other relationships in your prior friendship circle look like yours (more to come on this).

Are you in an interracial/intercultural relationship what has your experience been like? Have you done any of these things no one likes to talk about?  Have you seen Mother’s Day the movie what were your thoughts? Like our content subscribe!