Hi everyone! Our names are Telwin & Carolyn, aka CurryandtheStates. Telwin is Indian, and he was born and raised in Pune, India. He moved to the United States of America at 26 years old. Carolyn is Caucasian, and she is a midwestern girl that was born and raised in O’Fallon, IL. Together, they made Nashville, TN, their home for the last 1.5 years, but recently moved to Louisville, KY.
How We Met
Telwin & Carolyn: In short, it was by fate, and a result of these four events aligning together.
1.) A random coworker alters dates for a work trip landing Telwin in Chicago directly after Carolyn’s return from vacation.
2.) Two helpful coworkers convinced Carolyn to go on a date with Telwin though she was only wanted to stay home.
3.) Several carefully curated dating app settings (credit Coffee Meets Bagel).
4.) A classic Chicago ice storm creating a romantic and solo experience on a Salsa Club Dance Floor.
Telwin Set His Dating App To ‘Chicago’ And Indian’
The Perfect Storm
Their first date was as perfect as could be – a Chicago Ice Storm had kept the entire city home. Therefore, the dance floor and DJ were all theirs at a downtown Salsa club. What could have been a terribly awkward experience turned into hours of laughing, talking, and of course – sexy salsa dancing! However, towards the end of their date, the reality of the distance between them hit. At that moment, Carolyn decided that if Telwin was ready for marriage, and had come to the city to meet a compatible Indian girl, who was she to stand in the way? They were better just as friends who shared a fantastic first (and last) date.
It’s So Hard To Say Goodbye
Taking the goodbyes harder than they both thought, their Monday’s back at work were equally terrible. With the date on his mind, Telwin took a wrong turn driving to work. Meanwhile, Carolyn was deep in the doldrum and accidentally ‘replied all’ to a company-wide email-yikes!
Eventually weeks of phone calls finally grew into a budding relationship, and Telwin found himself driving 8.5 hours to surprise Carolyn in Chicago to propose! Not to propose marriage but to formally make Carolyn his significant other with the intention of marriage in the future.
How Did You Know You Were Meant To Be
Telwin: A well-timed friendly wink from Carolyn during a slightly low point in his day. I still love it when she winks at me.
Carolyn: A surprise understanding of a joke she didn’t think Telwin’s Indian upbringing would allow him to get. I have a particular sense of humor, and I was holding back the first few conversations because I didn’t know if he would get it! When he cracked up, I knew I could finally be my full funny self! He did warn me; they may not get my humor in India-LOL.
How Long You Have Been Together
Telwin & Carolyn: We were crazy and got married precisely eight months after our first date in Nashville, TN. We have been together for just about two years now and married for a little over one year.
How Was Meeting Her Parents For The First Time
How Was Meeting His Parents For The First Time
Two unique experiences during their first meeting are that Carolyn taught my parents how to use a seatbelt. If you have been to India then you know they aren’t popular there. Secondly, Carolyn and my mom had a blast draping sarees and sipping chai together.
What Engagement Or Wedding Tips Do You Wish You Knew Beforehand
What Obstacles Have You Encountered For Being In An Interracial/Intercultural Relationship Or Marriage
What Advice Do You Have For Anyone Working Through The Green Card Process
- Get started on the process earlier than later, no harm in gathering paperwork before the wedding date! Then all you need to do is plug in your marriage certificate!
- Keep a google photos file and anytime you get a great picture with friends or holidays, just file it away right away, so you have a great folder to choose from. Thus, when Snapfish or Walgreens runs a sale, you already know which pictures you need to print!
- Create a shared drive, so you both have access to adding w-2’s, birth certificates, and all of the paperwork you need to submit
- Once you submit your paperwork, keep it all handy in your google drive account. Because the chances are that you will need it again. Having everything in one spot made buying our house so easy because we already had everything we needed to process our loan!
- The interviewers can tell when you’re in love, so no need to worry during the questioning. I (Carolyn) got my dates twisted, and we laughed it off and still got Telwin’s Green Card with no issues.
Share With Us Your Top Takeaways/Advice To An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage
Carolyn & Telwin: No one’s culture is more important than the others; don’t give up your entire self to be part of another.
Carolyn: No one loves wearing a saree more than I do – believe me! But this year, I learned Telwin has never heard of the Easter Bunny! He teaches me how to blend Indian Spices, and I taught him the magic that is tuna casserole! It is really all balance.
What Do You Love About Being In An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage
What Are You Still Learning From Being In An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage
Telwin: We don’t know what we don’t know until it accidentally comes up! We don’t have kids yet; however, Carolyn accidentally learned that it’s popular to cosleep until we are around 6ish. I never thought to tell her that because I didn’t know Americans didn’t do that!
Also funny little things like when an entire stadium sings the lyrics to “the most popular American song ever” and I’m like well, it didn’t make it to India so how popular could it be? (Sweeeeeeet Carolineeeee BA BA BA) I got a lot of flack for not knowing that song since it’s my wife’s name hahaha.
Additionally, I never knew how amazing it is to have an American Accent always at my side up until now. All my American neighbors have called me “Delvin” but, my trustee wife has stepped up, and she does the introduction, so I am back to being “TeL-Win.”
Anything Else You Want To Add To Help Others Reading This
Telwin & Carolyn: We feel truly grateful that both of our families are completely in love with our significant others. But we know that that is not always the case, and we just want you to know to stay strong and let love win. When it is truly right, it is right.
Thank you, Telwin & Carolyn, for sharing your whirlwind, fun-loving, and kismet love story with us. What did you think of their love story and tips for others? Find out more about Telwin & Carolyn via their YouTube channel @curryandthestates! On their YouTube channel! You will find that Carolyn isn’t afraid of making a fool of herself (‘American Speaks Hindi funny edition’). Additionally, you can even learn a thing or two from their most popular video – ‘Arranged Marriage – What America Doesn’t know.’ Social media handles: Youtube: CurryandtheStates and Instagram: @curryandthestates.
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