A PERFECT MATCH-INTERRACIAL/INTERCULTURAL MARRIAGE: AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMAN AND INDIAN MAN

A PERFECT MATCH

INTERRACIAL/INTERCULTURAL MARRIAGE: AFRICAN-AMERICAN WOMAN AND INDIAN MAN

About Us

Hi, my name is Keisha and I’m an African-American woman.  My husband’s name is Cyriac and he is Indian.

How We Met

Keisha shares that we met, in person, at a Borders bookstore after first connecting on Match.com.  I had no idea who I was meeting because I wasn’t on Match.com for that long; Cyriac also used his real name when he emailed me.  I went to Borders bookstore assuming I would be meeting a Black man.  Yet, and immediately to my surprise, this South-Asian man, I “winked” at, was there!

How Long You Have Been Together?

We have been together for 14 1/2 yrs!

How Was Meeting His Parents For The First Time?

Keisha says, Cyriac was more excited for me to meet his parents than I was.  Candidly, I still wasn’t sure if I was that serious about him yet.  His parents were sitting in his apartment watching, Spike Lee’s, Malcolm X when I entered the room!  I was cynical and thought it was staged, LOL!  His mom hugged me and so did his dad soon after.  They gave the best first impression!

How Was Meeting Her Parents For The First Time?

Keisha states, Cyriac met my mom by accident-as he was dropping me off from hanging out.  It was uncomfortable because it wasn’t planned and we were still getting to know each other.  My mom and her impromptu pop-up broke the ice at least.  She liked him and didn’t have an issue with his ethnicity.  Both our families know our ancestral kinship is deeper despite the barriers.

Our Top Tips To An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage:

Keisha shares the following top tips to an interracial/intercultural marriage:

1. Know your non-negotiables.  The best thing I did, was set my boundaries with him early on.  We talked about things that made each other uncomfortable about the other’s racial and overall background.
2. Consider the way you were brought up could be completely different and figure out a way to compromise, or create a new way of living in harmony.  We are more from two different: spiritual, class, educational backgrounds, etc.  We took the things we liked and discarded the things we didn’t to form our own way of living.
3. Celebrate each other’s culture by attending: events, listening to music, cooking each other’s food, and then find the connections between them.  We played games and music that had elements of both cultures in our wedding (e.g. MLK’s admiration for Gandhi  & Jay Z & Punjabi MC was both an education and  musical favorites for our guest!)

What Do You Love About Being In An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage

Keisha states, I love non-verbally sharing with other black women that you are worthy of finding love.  Love with any man from any race, or culture, and you do not have to assimilate to them. It is possible to stay 100% you!
Cyriac adds, that we’re all just souls connecting; the flesh doesn’t tells you who we are, your experiences do.  Lastly, we both would say that we found someone that matches our most critical parts of our core: our political beliefs.

What Are You Still Learning From Being In An Interracial/Intercultural Marriage?

Keisha says, that the world we live in is still stuck in a sunken place.  Particularly, when it comes to seeing a calm and proud black woman (not loud, nor angry) with another man of color matching her worth.

Any Parenting Tips You Have For Raising Multicultural Kids

Keisha and Cyriac have two beautiful children.  These are their must-know tips for raising multicultural kids.

Anything Else You Would Like To Add To Help Others?

Do your research when you don’t know the answer.  Ignorance is not always bliss!  Our children look to us to teach them things our schools won’t and don’t.

 

Thank you Keisha and Cyriac for sharing your beautiful and funny love story with us!  It is not everyday that you hear of both set of parents being so loving and open minded to a new culture.  And we love your tips for raising multicultural kids!  What did you think of Keisha and Cyriac’s love story? Have a question for us? Write us at growingupgupta@gmail.com! Find us on Twitter @growingupgupta and on Pinterest, Instagram, and Facebook @growingupguptas.

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